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The first thing I want you to do is to imagine that you had an ideal loving emotionally supportive childhood. Think about what kind of person you would have been if you had been raised to believe in yourself and in your natural gifts and talents. What were those gifts and talents? What were you really good at? What kinds of activities came easy for you? Now write down a list of talents, traits, attributes, and gifts that you loved and probably excelled at before you were convinced that you weren’t any good at them. Choose items from that list for the next step.
Years ago while running an at-home daycare, I came to realize that we’re all born with an innate sense of self-confidence. Every single child under the age of five that I have ever observed has had a strong self-confidence in at least one area of their life. Most kids had confidence in all areas of their lives. It seems to me that they systematically lose that confidence and it’s replaced by an inner critic. Quite often it’s the child’s home life, but sometimes it’s the schools, neighborhood kids, extended family, or some other person who unknowingly destroys the child’s belief in themselves. Children have to be told they aren’t good enough, strong enough, smart enough, talented enough to accomplish whatever it is they’re trying to do. Unfortunately,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], most of us are told exactly that. So,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], how do we rebuild that sense of self-confidence?
That’s all good and well if your confidence problems center around skills, but what if your lack of self-confidence happens to be in the interpersonal relationships area? Are you painfully shy? Too afraid of rejection to even reach out to connect with others? Do you beat yourself up for not looking just so? Depending on the severity of your self-sabotaging belief system, you may want to get a professional therapist to help you with this. If it’s not too bad, but you have less self esteem then you would like to have, then ask someone that you trust to help you with this part. Ask your friend to point out examples of other people who look or act like you. For example, if you think you’re fat and everyone says
Repeat this process as much as you can. Keep picking up pieces of yourself on that list and adding them back into your sense of self. Don’t wait until you’ve become really good at the first new skill before picking up another one. Just play with each item on your list as the mood crosses you. There’s no need to beat yourself up for not being super talented because in reality all you are doing is simply playing with toys that remind you of your childhood. Allow your inner child, inner teenager, inner artist, inner musician to simply play. Eventually, you will come to realize one day that you do have natural gifts and talents and that will go a long way towards building your self-confidence.
Self-confidence is broken a piece at a time. So you’re going to rebuild it a piece at a time. Pick things from your list and plan out tiny baby steps. Were you meant to be a great artist? Then start out by doodling. Just start carrying a pencil and paper around with you and allow yourself to absentmindedly doodle little pictures. Eventually,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], allow the passion to find it’s way through you and you will begin to draw bigger and better, adding paints or whatever medium you were always meant to use. Were you supposed to be a musician? Then start humming little tunes in your head, begin playing around with an instrument. If it’s possible, carry an instrument around with you and whenever you’re bored or have some downtime, just sit and absentmindedly allow your fingers to play with it until the music within you begins calling to you again. Whatever the thing, pick something from your list and begin to play with it without paying a lot of attention to being perfect or talented or anything else. Just hold the tools and space out awhile so that you can get out of your own self-consciousness and just play with the tools. Nobody has to know if you don’t want them to.